Rebellion
Compulsive overeating may often be a form of rebellion. In the past, the more we tried to diet, the more we rebelled against the diet, and the more we overate. We were rebelling not only against a diet but also against other people, ourselves, and our Higher Power.
We should never consider abstinence as defined by OA to be just another diet. To do so would be to invite further rebellion. We compulsive overeaters seem especially prone to fight constraints of any kind. Rather than constraining us, abstinence is our liberation. We no longer have a diet to rebel against.
When we accept abstinence, we decide to have three measured meals a day with nothing in between, and we decide to avoid our personal binge foods. What those meals will consist of is our choice, and we make the choice daily. All we have to do is plan what we will have, measure it, enjoy it, and then get from one meal to the next without taking the first compulsive bite. Simple. There is no diet to rebel against.
I pray that I will no longer need to rebel.
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Abstinence allows me to STOP dieting. I eat 6 small meals a day, with nothing in between, and no trigger foods, versus the 3 meals suggested by OA. Abstinence varies by person, and there is no 'right or wrong' way, in my opinion.
I spent 40 years 'dieting', losing and regaining weight, and struggling constantly. Yes, I was extremely rebellious as well. There were tons of "Mondays" when I'd be starting one new diet or another, thinking all I needed was 'the right' one and I'd be 'fixed.' I thought the only thing that needed fixing was my body. Turns out, it was my soul that needed fixing all along.
For today, I am grateful for the OA program & finding a way out of the nightmare of compulsive overeating. When I start thinking that abstinence is 'hard' and begin feeling rebellious, I pray to remember just HOW hard compulsive overeating was.
Compulsive overeating may often be a form of rebellion. In the past, the more we tried to diet, the more we rebelled against the diet, and the more we overate. We were rebelling not only against a diet but also against other people, ourselves, and our Higher Power.
We should never consider abstinence as defined by OA to be just another diet. To do so would be to invite further rebellion. We compulsive overeaters seem especially prone to fight constraints of any kind. Rather than constraining us, abstinence is our liberation. We no longer have a diet to rebel against.
When we accept abstinence, we decide to have three measured meals a day with nothing in between, and we decide to avoid our personal binge foods. What those meals will consist of is our choice, and we make the choice daily. All we have to do is plan what we will have, measure it, enjoy it, and then get from one meal to the next without taking the first compulsive bite. Simple. There is no diet to rebel against.
I pray that I will no longer need to rebel.
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Abstinence allows me to STOP dieting. I eat 6 small meals a day, with nothing in between, and no trigger foods, versus the 3 meals suggested by OA. Abstinence varies by person, and there is no 'right or wrong' way, in my opinion.
I spent 40 years 'dieting', losing and regaining weight, and struggling constantly. Yes, I was extremely rebellious as well. There were tons of "Mondays" when I'd be starting one new diet or another, thinking all I needed was 'the right' one and I'd be 'fixed.' I thought the only thing that needed fixing was my body. Turns out, it was my soul that needed fixing all along.
For today, I am grateful for the OA program & finding a way out of the nightmare of compulsive overeating. When I start thinking that abstinence is 'hard' and begin feeling rebellious, I pray to remember just HOW hard compulsive overeating was.
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