The Language of Letting Go
Rescuing Ourselves
No one likes a martyr.
How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.
Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want.
It is our job to notice our abilities, our strengths, and take care of ourselves by developing and acting on them.
It is our job to notice our pain and weariness and appropriately take care of ourselves.
It is our job to notice our deprivation, too, and begin to take steps to give ourselves abundance. It begins inside of us, by changing what we believe we deserve, by giving up our deprivation and treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.
Life is hard, but we don't have to make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. There is no glory in suffering, only suffering. Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.
Today, I will be my own rescuer. I will stop waiting for someone else to work through my issues and solve my problems for me.
No one likes a martyr.
How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.
Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want.
It is our job to notice our abilities, our strengths, and take care of ourselves by developing and acting on them.
It is our job to notice our pain and weariness and appropriately take care of ourselves.
It is our job to notice our deprivation, too, and begin to take steps to give ourselves abundance. It begins inside of us, by changing what we believe we deserve, by giving up our deprivation and treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.
Life is hard, but we don't have to make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. There is no glory in suffering, only suffering. Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.
Today, I will be my own rescuer. I will stop waiting for someone else to work through my issues and solve my problems for me.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
©1990, Hazelden Foundation
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Embrace the responsibility
You don't have to prove how good you are. Just be how good you are.
You don't need anyone else's permission to live your dreams. Give yourself permission, and inspiration, and a sincere reason, and go for it.
The quality of your life is not determined by what other people choose to think of you. It is determined by what you choose to think and do.
Stop wishing for someone to bail you out, or waiting for someone to give you a break. Give yourself a nudge forward, then get moving and keep moving.
Consider your good fortune at being able to act on your own behalf. Delight in the fact that you are responsible for the way your life unfolds.
Embrace that responsibility and all the good things it makes possible. Live that responsibility, and make your life live up to your very best expectations.
Ralph Marston – The Daily Motivator
You don't have to prove how good you are. Just be how good you are.
You don't need anyone else's permission to live your dreams. Give yourself permission, and inspiration, and a sincere reason, and go for it.
The quality of your life is not determined by what other people choose to think of you. It is determined by what you choose to think and do.
Stop wishing for someone to bail you out, or waiting for someone to give you a break. Give yourself a nudge forward, then get moving and keep moving.
Consider your good fortune at being able to act on your own behalf. Delight in the fact that you are responsible for the way your life unfolds.
Embrace that responsibility and all the good things it makes possible. Live that responsibility, and make your life live up to your very best expectations.
Ralph Marston – The Daily Motivator
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