The Language of Letting Go: June 27th

Achieving Harmony

When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then, the musician practices with the other hand, picking through the notes, one by one, until that hand learns its tasks. When each hand has learned its part - the sound, the feel, the rhythm, and the tones - then both hands can play together.

During the time of practice, the music may not sound like much. It may sound disconnected, not particularly beautiful. But when both hands are ready to play together, music is created - a whole piece comes together in harmony and beauty.

When we begin recovery, it may feel like we spend months, even years, practicing individual, seemingly disconnected behaviors in the separate parts of our life.

We take our new skills into our work, our career, and begin to apply them slowly, making our work relationships healthier for us. We take our skills into our relationships, sometimes one relationship at a time. We struggle through our new behaviors in our love relationships.

One part at a time, we practice our new music note by note.

We work on our relationship with our Higher Power - our spirituality. We work at loving ourselves. We work at believing we deserve the best. We work on our finances. On our recreation. Sometimes on our appearance. Sometimes on our home.

We work on feelings. On beliefs. On behaviors. Letting go of the old, acquiring the new. We work and work and work. We practice. We struggle through. We go from one extreme to the other, and sometimes back through the course again. We make a little progress, go backward, and then go forward again.

It may all seem disconnected. It may not sound like a harmonious, beautiful piece of music - just isolated notes. Then one day, something happens. We become ready to play with both hands, to put the music together.

What we have been working toward, note by note, becomes a song. That song is a whole life, a complete life, and a life in harmony.

The music will come together in our life if we keep practicing the parts.

Today, I will practice my recovery behaviors through the individual parts of my life. I trust that, one day, things will come together in a full, complete song.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.

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 This is one of the most profound & beautiful readings I've posted in ages! All of the Recovery readings hit home, but this one touches my heart deeply.

Although my actions seemed disjointed at first, and I felt like I was floundering around, looking for some sort of harmony, I had faith.  I pressed on.  I did what I had to DO, whether I 'felt like' it or not.  I used the 'fake it til you feel it' mentality.

I was scattered and disconnected.........but I stuck to my food plan, no matter WHAT. I read the literature, I went to meetings, I reached out to others who were suffering.

And eventually, a pattern emerged.  A routine sprung up and IT kept me moving forward........carried along with the current, so to speak.  My 'music' sounded like nails on a chalkboard in the early days of recovery.  But in time, all those squeaky notes blended together to make a beautiful song. 

Practicing good behavior creates a new life; one that springs UP out of the ashes & rubble of addiction. Good actions create good thoughts, and that's what I've learned over the years.

When you have faith............everything comes together one day to create a complete, harmonious lifestyle that allows you to live in freedom, one day at a time.

“In God's economy, nothing is wasted.
Through failure, we learn a lesson in humility
which is probably needed, painful though it is.”
Bill W., Letter of 1942