The Language of Letting Go: May 11th

Perfection

Many of us picked on ourselves unmercifully before recovery. We may also have a tendency too pick on ourselves after we begin recovery.

If I was really recovering, I wouldn't be doing that again . . . I should be further along than I am. These are statements that we indulge in when we're feeling shame. We don't need to treat ourselves that way. There is no benefit.

Remember, shame blocks us. But self-love and acceptance enable us to grow and change. If we truly have done something we feel guilty about, we can correct it with an amend and an attitude of self-acceptance and love.

Even if we slip back to our old, codependent ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving, we do not need to be ashamed. We all regress from time to time. That's how we learn and grow. Relapse, or recycling, is an important and necessary part of recovery. And the way out of recycling is not by shaming ourselves. That leads us deeper into codependency.

Much pain comes from trying to be perfect. Perfection is impossible unless we think of it in a new way: Perfection is being who and where we are today; it's accepting and loving ourselves just as we are. We are each right where we need to be in our recovery.

Today, I will love and accept myself for who I am and where I am in my recovery process. I am right where I need to be to get to where I'm going tomorrow.

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"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear."
~Mark Twain

If I respond to fear by overeating, I tend to feel shame, and start bashing myself over the head.   No emotion on earth is more harmful to my recovery than shame.

Today, I love myself enough to stop trying to be Perfect.  If I make a mistake, I stay conscious, to figure out WHAT emotion I am responding to by stuffing myself. Relapse is always a part OF recovery, so treating myself badly cures nothing.  Understanding WHY is far more important.

For today, I will stop trying to be perfect. For today, I will accept & love myself for who & what I Am, as there is freedom in surrender.