Asking for What We Need
Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it.
Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it. Then, we may have to experience the disappointment of asking someone, having the person refuse us, and figuring out what to do next.
Sometimes in life, getting what we want and need is not so difficult. Sometimes, all we need to do is ask.
We can go to another person, or our Higher Power, and ask for what we need.
But because of how difficult it can be, at times, to get what we want and need, we may get trapped in the mind set of believing it will always be that difficult. Sometimes, not wanting to go through the hassle, dreading the struggle, or out of fear, we may make getting what we want and need much more difficult than it needs to be.
We may get angry before we ask, deciding that we'll never get what we want, or anticipating the "fight" we'll have to endure. By the time we talk to someone about what we want, we may be so angry that we're demanding, not asking; thus our anger triggers a power play that didn't exist except in our mind.
Or we may get so worked up that we don't ask--or we waste far more energy than necessary fighting with ourselves, only to find out that the other person, or our Higher Power, is happy to give us what we want.
Sometimes, we have to fight and work and wait for what we want and need. Sometimes, we can get it just by asking or stating that this is what we want. Ask. If the answer is no, or not what we want, then we can decide what to do next.
Today, I will not set up a difficult situation that doesn't exist with other people, or my Higher Power, about getting what I want and need. If there is something I need from someone, I will ask first, before I struggle.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
©1990, Hazelden Foundation.Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it.
Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it. Then, we may have to experience the disappointment of asking someone, having the person refuse us, and figuring out what to do next.
Sometimes in life, getting what we want and need is not so difficult. Sometimes, all we need to do is ask.
We can go to another person, or our Higher Power, and ask for what we need.
But because of how difficult it can be, at times, to get what we want and need, we may get trapped in the mind set of believing it will always be that difficult. Sometimes, not wanting to go through the hassle, dreading the struggle, or out of fear, we may make getting what we want and need much more difficult than it needs to be.
We may get angry before we ask, deciding that we'll never get what we want, or anticipating the "fight" we'll have to endure. By the time we talk to someone about what we want, we may be so angry that we're demanding, not asking; thus our anger triggers a power play that didn't exist except in our mind.
Or we may get so worked up that we don't ask--or we waste far more energy than necessary fighting with ourselves, only to find out that the other person, or our Higher Power, is happy to give us what we want.
Sometimes, we have to fight and work and wait for what we want and need. Sometimes, we can get it just by asking or stating that this is what we want. Ask. If the answer is no, or not what we want, then we can decide what to do next.
Today, I will not set up a difficult situation that doesn't exist with other people, or my Higher Power, about getting what I want and need. If there is something I need from someone, I will ask first, before I struggle.
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I'm exhausted just reading this! As a compulsive overeater/compulsive person in general, I tend to live inside my HEAD. Inside of my head, I tend to set up all SORTS of possibilities and outcomes for all SORTS of situations that do not even exist.
The "What If's". If I play out ENOUGH scenes in my head, surely I'll hit on the ONE possible outcome!
When I do that, I work myself up into a lather, for no good reason. I wind up wasting ALL of my energy on Anticipation!
The "What If'" scenario constitutes living in the Future. I prevent Spontaneity and stuff DOWN my intuitions by trying to determine the outcome of something BEFORE it actually happens! When I allow God to run the show, I don't HAVE TO know the outcome beforehand.
If I want something, or need something, I will ask for it. I will not run my brain into overdrive worrying about what the answer will be. I will keep in mind that I have very few real 'needs', and most of them are already taken care of!
If my Wants outnumber my Needs, I'll never wind up being happy with what I have.
For today, I will be straightforward and truthful when expressing myself. If I need something, I will ask for it, especially if it's help from someone else. I will not expect YOU to read MY mind and be able to magically meet all of MY needs.
For today, I will not project the future by imagining the outcome of any situation. I will live in the NOW and enjoy each moment as it appears.
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