The Language of Letting Go: July 26th

Owning Our Power

Don't you see? We do not have to be so victimized by life, by people, by situations, by work, by our friends, by our love relationships, by our family, by our feelings, our thoughts, our circumstances, and ourselves.

We are not victims. We do not have to be victims. That is the whole point!

Yes, admitting and accepting powerlessness is important. But that is the first step, an introduction to this business of recovery. Later, comes owning our power. Changing what we can. This is as important as admitting and accepting powerlessness. And there is so much we can change.

We can own our power, wherever we are, wherever we go, whomever we are with. We do not have to stand there with our hands tied, groveling helplessly, submitting to whatever comes along. There are things we can do. We can speak up. Solve the problem. Use the problem to motivate ourselves to do something good for ourselves.

We can make ourselves feel good. We can walk away. We can come back on our terms. We can stand up for ourselves. We can refuse to let others control and manipulate us.

We can do what we need to do to take care of our selves. That is the beauty, the reward, the crown of victory we are given in this process called recovery. It is what it is all about!

If we can't do anything about the circumstance, we can change our attitude. We can do the work within: courageously face our issues so we are not victimized. We have been given a miraculous key to life.

We are victims no more unless we want to be.

Freedom and joy are ours for the taking, for the feeling, for the hard work we have done.

Today, I will remind myself as often as necessary that I am not a victim, and I do not need to be victimized by whatever comes my way. I will work hard to remove myself as a victim, whether that means setting and enforcing a boundary, walking away, dealing with my feelings, or giving myself what I need. God, help me let go of my need to feel victimized.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.

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Refusing to play the victim prevents me from feeling entitled to be miserable. And, if I don't feel entitled to misery, what's my excuse to overeat?  I don't have one.  

 

I am responsible for myself and my behavior AND my thought patterns.  I am not a slave to my brain, and it's up to ME to recognize when my thoughts are leading me astray.  When my thoughts threaten to deceive me into negativity, I meditate and tune into my Spirit instead of my brain.

 

There are many things I can do to avoid feeling victimized. Am I sure I WANT to stop playing that role?  

 

Do I really WANT freedom & joy, or, is it easier to roll over and play dead?  

 

I can choose the Poor-Me routine, or I can own my adulthood by standing up for my SELF and owning my own power.

 

For today, I do not choose to play the victim role.  For today, I choose to do whatever I NEED to do to avoid it.