Sadness
Ultimately, to grieve our losses means to surrender to our feelings.
So many of us have lost so much, have said so many good byes - have been through so many changes. We may want to hold back the tides of change, not because the change isn't good, but because we have had so much change, so much loss.
Sometimes, when we are in the midst of pain and grief, we become shortsighted, like members of a tribe described in the movie Out of Africa.
"If you put them in prison," one character said, describing this tribe, "they die."
"Why?" asked another character.
"Because they can't grasp the idea that they'll be let out one day. They think it's permanent, so they die."
Many of us have so much grief to get through. Sometimes we begin to believe grief, or pain, is a permanent condition.
The pain will stop. Once felt and released, our feelings will bring us to a better place than where we started. Feeling our feelings, instead of denying or minimizing them, is how we heal from our past and move forward into a better future. Feeling our feelings is how we let go.
It may hurt for a moment, but peace and acceptance are on the other side. So is a new beginning.
God, help me fully embrace and finish my endings, so I may be ready for my new beginnings.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
©1990, Hazelden Foundation.Ultimately, to grieve our losses means to surrender to our feelings.
So many of us have lost so much, have said so many good byes - have been through so many changes. We may want to hold back the tides of change, not because the change isn't good, but because we have had so much change, so much loss.
Sometimes, when we are in the midst of pain and grief, we become shortsighted, like members of a tribe described in the movie Out of Africa.
"If you put them in prison," one character said, describing this tribe, "they die."
"Why?" asked another character.
"Because they can't grasp the idea that they'll be let out one day. They think it's permanent, so they die."
Many of us have so much grief to get through. Sometimes we begin to believe grief, or pain, is a permanent condition.
The pain will stop. Once felt and released, our feelings will bring us to a better place than where we started. Feeling our feelings, instead of denying or minimizing them, is how we heal from our past and move forward into a better future. Feeling our feelings is how we let go.
It may hurt for a moment, but peace and acceptance are on the other side. So is a new beginning.
God, help me fully embrace and finish my endings, so I may be ready for my new beginnings.
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Compulsive eaters think in terms of 'never' and 'forever'. If we're having a bad day, it computes to having a bad LIFE. We're so afraid to feel our emotions, thinking THEY will kill us.........forgetting that it isn't emotions that kill, it's addiction. The drive thru is a faster way to misery and death than sitting through our emotions ANY day.
The only way OUT is THROUGH. When we embrace and accept our disease is when we become willing to go to WHATEVER lengths are necessary to get it into remission and to KEEP it there.
I need not worry about yesterday or tomorrow. Whatever grief consumes me has already passed. What is wrong right NOW, at this very moment? Nothing.
For today, I will live FOR today. I pray to embrace new beginnings today, since TODAY is all I have. For 24 hours, I can do anything!
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