Trusting Ourselves
Trust can be one of the most confusing concepts in recovery. Who do we trust? For what?
The most important trust issue we face is learning to trust ourselves. The most detrimental thing that's happened to us is that we came to believe we couldn't trust ourselves.
There will be some who tell us we cannot trust ourselves; we are off base and out of whack. There are those who would benefit by our mistrusting ourselves.
Fear and doubt are our enemies. Panic is our enemy. Confusion is our opposition.
Self-trust is a healing gift we can give ourselves. How do we acquire it? We learn it. What do we do about our mistakes, about those times we thought we could trust ourselves but were wrong? We accept them, and trust ourselves anyway.
We know what is best for us. We know what is right for us. If we are wrong, if we need to change our mind, we will be guided into that - but only by trusting where we are today.
We can look to others for support and reinforcement, but trust in ourselves is essential.
Do not trust fear. Do not trust panic. We can trust ourselves, stand in our own truth, and stand in our own light. We have it now. Already. We have all the light we need for today. And tomorrow's light shall be given to us then.
Trust ourselves, and we will know whom to trust. Trust ourselves, and we will know what to do. When we feel we absolutely cannot trust ourselves, trust that God will guide us into truth.
God, help me let go of fear, doubt, and confusion - the enemies of self-trust. Help me go forward in peace and confidence. Help me grow in trust for you, and myself one day at a time, one experience at a time.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
©1990, Hazelden Foundation.Trust can be one of the most confusing concepts in recovery. Who do we trust? For what?
The most important trust issue we face is learning to trust ourselves. The most detrimental thing that's happened to us is that we came to believe we couldn't trust ourselves.
There will be some who tell us we cannot trust ourselves; we are off base and out of whack. There are those who would benefit by our mistrusting ourselves.
Fear and doubt are our enemies. Panic is our enemy. Confusion is our opposition.
Self-trust is a healing gift we can give ourselves. How do we acquire it? We learn it. What do we do about our mistakes, about those times we thought we could trust ourselves but were wrong? We accept them, and trust ourselves anyway.
We know what is best for us. We know what is right for us. If we are wrong, if we need to change our mind, we will be guided into that - but only by trusting where we are today.
We can look to others for support and reinforcement, but trust in ourselves is essential.
Do not trust fear. Do not trust panic. We can trust ourselves, stand in our own truth, and stand in our own light. We have it now. Already. We have all the light we need for today. And tomorrow's light shall be given to us then.
Trust ourselves, and we will know whom to trust. Trust ourselves, and we will know what to do. When we feel we absolutely cannot trust ourselves, trust that God will guide us into truth.
God, help me let go of fear, doubt, and confusion - the enemies of self-trust. Help me go forward in peace and confidence. Help me grow in trust for you, and myself one day at a time, one experience at a time.
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I had no trust or faith in myself because of all the addiction issues that I was never able to reel in. All the failed diet attempts. All the failed attempts to quit smoking and drinking. All the failures felt like open wounds...........reasons to NOT trust myself. How COULD I 'trust' myself, after failing so many times?
Finding abstinence is what led me TO trust myself once again. To realize, deep down inside, that I AM a trustworthy person. That I SHOULD trust myself, and that I could trust myself. That I am truly worthy of all the good things life has to offer. That I am not a second class citizen and 'less than' any other human being on earth.
Fear and doubt once plagued me because I didn't know that I had The Power to change my OWN life. That God is with me always, right there to help and guide me! I thought I was alone.......struggling to find happiness and joy...........but I was wrong. The fellowship of OA is a beacon of light in the darkness, and my HP is by my side continuously.
For today, I will not fear and I will not panic. I can trust myself, stand in my own truth, and embrace my own light. I have it now............already...........this minute. I have all the light I need for today. And when tomorrow comes, the light will be given to me then.
For today, I will go forward in peace and confidence, one day at a time, one experience at a time.
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